I will tell you what I also told him…

To begin with, emotions are something very abstract…
They’re subjective, and our own perception on the things that happens to us. In subjectivity we as people, we are often very simillar.
That’s why it’s easier to connect on subjectivity than on objectivity.

When we resonate with a woman we become subjective, our objective judging reasoning disappears and we become relaxed children, happy of such a bond… we become spontaneous, authentic, original… without any fear, without dominating… us in our purity as well as in our maturity…

People who talk concrete, objective things are boring.

People that talk about powerful positive emotions from their experience are very interesting, downright fascinating. The more intense the emotion you’re talking about is(in a real way, meaning you already felt it in the past), the more contagious it becomes for your conversation partener.

The majority of men act robotically with women, using sets of learnt mechanical steps. Women want naturalness, a smooth and slow transition from the first word until sex…

The truth is that, 80% of the Game of Seduction is Connection and only 20% is the attraction she feels towards you…

You have to lead the emotions. You have to first open up, and tell stories of your emotions from the past (challenge, passion, enthusiasm, joy, funny-ridiculous, etc) and only then will she trust you to tell you her stories, and esspecially to get involed in an interaction where you can escalate physically.

And if you fell she hasn’t yet fallen in love… ask yourself:

Have you ever genuinely opened up to her?
Have you opened up with strong points and weak points told from a wisdom point of view(the lesson that you learnt from them?)
Have you ever told her your life principles? Your strong values?
Have you ever told her about your childhood… your dreams and your fears… (the way you would say it to your girlfriend)?
Have you ever told her the story of your life and the way you see your life from then on?

No? Then how do you want her to fall in love with you when you have a iron barrier between you and her… that blocks any real and authentic connection?

And very important, if you want to have a connection… after you have generated an emotion, listen to hers… and then connect to what she said… and then listen to her… listen more when she starts telling her life, her dreams, her fears and her experiences…

LISTEN UP, STARE INTO HER EYES, UNDERSTAND HER AND MAKE YOURSELF UNDERSTOOD ON A PROFOUND LEVEL!

That is connection

I know what it’s like …

You met a girl, you started a relationship with her… You made big hopes about that relationship, maybe you even thought of having a family with her… But now she left you.

How do you get over it?

The first step the majority does is to believe it is 100% their fault, the fault of having lost control and that they should never do that again!

There are voices in the Seduction Community that say that:

“When you fall in love, the women will run all over you, she will control you and you will lose all your pride and character”

Unfortunately or Fortunately, this statement is both true and false .

Indeed, it’s not good to fall in love with ANY WOMAN. It is not good to make her your universe or to raise her on an unworthy high piedestal. Most times, she doesn’t even want that from you. She just wants to be equal with you, nothing more, nothing less. And if she does want something else, I don’t think it’s the kind of woman you are looking for.

A woman may run all over you, that is true… but this will happen only if the women is manipulative and you as a man accept these manipulations, because you as well are not 100% direct and honest, so you are being manipulative as well.

A women may control you and you may control her.

But I don’t hink you would want a woman who is beneath you, a woman you can too easily control… It’s fun to have that kind of woman once, twice… but after a few years you will get bored of this… You will want to be surprised. At first for your experience, and for satisfying your ego, to forget the pain you felt in the past with the women that hurt you it may be ok to do this… but never forget what you truly want inside and what your objective is…

If a woman is controlling you, that is not ok. It means you are not being ASSERTIVE enough. You are not asking for your rights. This is another problem. EVERYTHING HAS TO BE NEGOCIATED! WHAT YOU WANT… WHAT SHE WANTS… WHAT IS EQUAL, CORRECT AND GOOD FOR BOTH .

And my dear reader… until you can start to offer an EQUAL and BEAUTIFUL relationship… until you can become ASSERTIVE and RELAXED in a relationship… you need experience… life experience… emotional experience… emotional control and a good knowledge of human psychology. That may be the reason why you are reading this now.

If you’re not there yet… if you’re not EMOTIONALLY MATURE yet, work on that now! Apply my advice into practise and develop your emotional intelligence, develop your capacity of CONSISTENT ACTION! You will need this in everything you do.

In other words…

It is OK to fall in love… when you have enough experience…

1. Because then you will have lots of alternatives… you can start a new relationship everytime you need one… or you can have one night stands… if that’s what your ego needs to get more detached.

2. You will know why you are choosing a woman… and you will know why you want or don’t want to stay with her… and especially you will know what you expect in return to what you are offering…

and last but not the least you will have DIGNITY to depart from all relationships that do not fulfill 100% of all your wishes…

So, do you still fall in love?