The first thing everyone should realise is…

REJECTION is fine… it’s normal… and it’s NO PROBLEM!
A girl that I didn’t know, that has no value to me yet, has said NO to me. Why should I take it personally?

I think the whole game of indirect is built around NOT ACCEPTING REJECTION…

But I ask you…

Who are you to impose to a girl how to react?
Maybe she’s on her period. Maybe she indeed has a boyfriend and doesn’t want to cheat. Maybe indeed she doesn’t feel attracted to you.
Or maybe she didn’t like the way you approached (i.e. your behavior… not you as a human being, BECAUSE SHE DOESN’T KNOW YOU!)

IS THAT SO BAD TO ACCEPT?

The more you accept it, the more freedom it gives you to talk to the women you truly like and find the one that has interest in you as well…

Yes we develop our personality and communication skills, but we never take rejection personal.

Think about this for a while… and you will find out DIRECT is a better way to go since you state your intention right away, or soon after you’ve opened her…

That way she has a choice … it doesn’t mean we have to hear YES out of her mouth… But if she allows you to lead her… by talking, by answering your hand shake when you tell her your name… damn it, that’s enough! That’s a huge YES! it’s subtle but it’s a YES!

Seduction is very easy lads, it’s not mathematics, it’s not A123 C123 S123… that’s a method made by and for geeks!

Do you want to be a natural confident man? Then try being upfront about what you want… in a relaxed and DONT-BE-A-JERK way of course.

You are seductive when…

- you are relaxed and you relax other people by your relaxation
- when you feel good in your own skin and you make other people feel good in their skin (you don’t judge yourself, you don’t judge them… you accept people as they are)
- you smile from the heart, because every day is an opportunity to enjoy life and through your attitude you make other people see it that way too
- you offer an honest, genuine compliment without wanting to receive something in return
- when you every day you do one thing that scares you… because you know 90% of your fears are only in your head and you help other people see them that way too
- you challenge yourself and other people to continously evolve, to grow as human beings
- you know how to listen, without talking too much yourself…
- you know how to pay attention to other people’s needs without putting your need for validation or attention first
- you know how to offer energy, not just receive it/steal it/suck it from other people

Can you think of other ways you can be seductive just by the thoughts, ideas, feelings you have about yourself and the world?

You want to succeed. Yet, you’re afraid to make mistakes. You make elaborate plans about how everything will happen with her… how you are going to kiss her… how you are going to touch her… at which date you are going to have sex with her and what kind of relationship the 2 of you are going to have.

You think you are a wizzard to know the future? Bullshit! The only value you can bring, the only moment in which you can truly be strong, efficient and successful is IN THE PRESENT.

Forget perfect plans that you never start taking action about or the ones you keep postponing.

MAKE MISTASKES NOW RATHER THAN BEING PERFECT TOMORROW

As an international trainer very well put it: THE ONLY WAY TO SUCCEED FASTER IS TO FAIL FASTER!

Rather than holding the fear of mistaking and not learn anything on the long term, make mistakes now and learn from them.
THe more you try to avoid making mistakes, the less you learn and the more you inhibit yourself. By doing that you remain stuck in the cage you are creating for yourself, the cage around you that is getting thicker and thicker as time goes by…

Free yourself, Take risks, Make mistakes, Learn…

This is the magical pill of evolution

Have YOU done enough mistakes in order to be successful?

Let me introduce to you Mircea, 21 years old. I will let him tell you about his experience during the workshop here in Bucharest, Romania.

“I first heard about Sorin from a Seduction Forum and decided to contact him because I didn’t know what to do anymore. Although I had read a lot of theory about seduction (books, forums, etc), I was never able to fully apply what I read because I was very afraid of rejection. Thus, so far I have only had relationships that started out from my social circle.

In my mind, I had pictured the idea that I must be able to pickup any girl, any time and have success and I imagined coaching as being a mere series of forced effort at picking up chicks, at which I would probably fail in a pathetic way. Fortunately, things were not as I had expected!

I first met Sorin friday, so we can get to know each other, establish what we were going to do and for him to present a little bit of theory to me. When I first heard about “deep rapport” I thought it was a word like any other, a marketing technique maybe, that Sorin was essentially just like all the other PUAs/trainers/coaches,etc. I was suprised when we met because he didn’t stand out at all through clothes and style, as I had expected. He looks rather like a normal person, but with a confident and imposing posture/body language & physique.

I was suprised to find out exactly what “deep rapport” was. I found out about the natural steps in an approach (from opener to rapport and then to close), about how you can create deep rapport (talking about your senses, about emotions, values and not mere facts) and many other things. Although there was a lot of information to process I was able to get the information pretty easily because Sorin explained everything very clear and in a very structured and natural way.

The next day, we talked to girls in a Shopping Mall. Sorin’s Method, “I like you and I want to get to know you” seemed weird, although in theory it had perfect sense. I tried a first approach that got me a cold and fast rejection. Sorin told me to imagine the worst situation that may happen during an approach and how I could handle that. I then realised I had just the words situation that could happen and it wasn’t by far as bad as I had imagined. After a few exercises on congidence (”go and talk to that girl and simply tell her she has beautiful eyes”) and after I sa Sorin in action, the moment came when I had to do what I learnt.

I did an approach on 2 girls which went suprisingly well! The girls’ reaction was very good, although I felt very nervous.

After my first approach, things started to get better and better. I did a few more approaches and I took the messenger id of a very cute girl.
In the evening went to a nice club, called Oldies. The music was very good and so was the atmosphere, although I could not relax and feel good there. I don’t like clubs and i feel quite uncomfortable in those places because I don’t know how to dance. Sorin helped me to relax and in the end I did a few approaches in the club, one of them becoming a nice conversation ending with her phone number.

We then spent half of the next day discussing theory into more detail. Sorin gave a test to me where he helped me discover my values, giving me numerous possibilities to establish deep rapport with girls. We then went to another Shopping Mall where we continued our approaching sessions.

I think the most important things was the way Sorin changed my vision about seduction. This whole thing is not about making any girl, at any time, attracted to you, but about selecting the girls that attract you and trying to get to know them, and seeing whether they truly connect to your values.

To be more straight to the point, I learnt what it is like to have the power to choose, how you feel when you make an approach and how to be more and more relaxed, how you can have a deep, profound conversation with a girl without canned routines or prefabricated texts, what reactions to expect, how you can analyze the environment so that you choose the right moment and many other things, all eplained in a rational and structured way, very easy to learn and apply to me. For me many things have started to make sense in those 3 days… I realised what I was mistaking before and I realised the possibilities are much bigger, you just have to think and analyze carefuly.

Eventually, the most important thing is that I went from reading to doing, and I think this is a very important step in my personal evolution!”

I was recently asked by someone, how can one create connection with a woman so that she falls in love with you…

I will tell you what I also told him…

To begin with, emotions are something very abstract…
They’re subjective, and our own perception on the things that happens to us. In subjectivity we as people, we are often very simillar.
That’s why it’s easier to connect on subjectivity than on objectivity.

When we resonate with a woman we become subjective, our objective judging reasoning disappears and we become relaxed children, happy of such a bond… we become spontaneous, authentic, original… without any fear, without dominating… us in our purity as well as in our maturity…

People who talk concrete, objective things are boring.

People that talk about powerful positive emotions from their experience are very interesting, downright fascinating. The more intense the emotion you’re talking about is(in a real way, meaning you already felt it in the past), the more contagious it becomes for your conversation partener.

The majority of men act robotically with women, using sets of learnt mechanical steps. Women want naturalness, a smooth and slow transition from the first word until sex…

The truth is that, 80% of the Game of Seduction is Connection and only 20% is the attraction she feels towards you…

You have to lead the emotions. You have to first open up, and tell stories of your emotions from the past (challenge, passion, enthusiasm, joy, funny-ridiculous, etc) and only then will she trust you to tell you her stories, and esspecially to get involed in an interaction where you can escalate physically.

And if you fell she hasn’t yet fallen in love… ask yourself:

Have you ever genuinely opened up to her?
Have you opened up with strong points and weak points told from a wisdom point of view(the lesson that you learnt from them?)
Have you ever told her your life principles? Your strong values?
Have you ever told her about your childhood… your dreams and your fears… (the way you would say it to your girlfriend)?
Have you ever told her the story of your life and the way you see your life from then on?

No? Then how do you want her to fall in love with you when you have a iron barrier between you and her… that blocks any real and authentic connection?

And very important, if you want to have a connection… after you have generated an emotion, listen to hers… and then connect to what she said… and then listen to her… listen more when she starts telling her life, her dreams, her fears and her experiences…

LISTEN UP, STARE INTO HER EYES, UNDERSTAND HER AND MAKE YOURSELF UNDERSTOOD ON A PROFOUND LEVEL!

That is connection

I present to you, Julian, 40 years old. Here are the experiences he went through at my 1 on 1 training and how he will continue to evolve with my help, on the long term.

“I contacted Sorin after I found out about him on his website.
We met at the end of the week, by first talking in a fast food where we sat for a few hours and established some psychological elements such as: facts, feelings, values.

He also explained to me details about body language and voice, how to be more relaxed, how to talk to women, etc.

Then we moved on to the Unirii Mall where we started step by step, first making compliments to women to see their reaction. Some reacted well, others didn’t. The disposition in which the girls were mattered a lot too.

Then we continued to: approaching and presenting myself. First to single girls, then to groups of two girls that sat at a table and were talking between them. Some girls were surprised, others felt a bit intimidated but they certainly liked my way of approaching.

Of course, before every approach there is fear, which must be defeated, or the longer you wait the more the fear builds itself up. After every approach I went back to Sorin, I told him how the girls reacted. Of course there were funny moments too.

In this seduction course you go through powerful sensations such as fear, courage, humour, which leads to powerful adrenaline rushes in your blood.

In the evening we went to the Oldies Club where we made several approaches: a few times on a single girl, then on groups of two again. It went smoother on girls that were less experienced with men, with them I was able to talk for more than 20 minutes using the learnt techniques of rapport, and I was able to touch them and be touched back as well when I saw them later on which showed me very strong interest from their part.

The more experienced women turned me down politely, with a smile, but not before I had a chance to talk and present myself, because of the dominant approach I had done, a fact which encouraged me a lot.

After I had the Direct Approaching going right for me, I started to learn how to mantain the conversation and induce positive feelings while talking. Every time I would go back at Sorin for him to debrief my approach and tell me what I can do to improve my success rate more and more every time.

While approaching a group o 3 girls and a guy that was dancing with them, I hesitated, which made me lose the girl because we had had eye contact before, and because I waited too long and she saw I was hesitating, I lost her attention by not proving I’m a man and approaching on the spot.

The next day we went to the Mall where we approached girls at tables and we initiated conversations. Some girls where interested and we discussed several things together, others weren’t. It’s natural for it to be that way…

The last approach was with 2 girls sitting at a table, after which Sorin came in, to show me live how to have a powerful confident deep connection, and he saved the situation. It also matters a lot how you position yourself at the girls’ table, and not to stand too long but to grab a chair, relax and show you have initiative.

During a conversation you should transmit positive emotions to girls, otherwise you will not be able to get her phone number and a future date with her. Also at the table where 2 girls were siting, one has to choose one of them to show that she’s special for you, and that you have chosen her from the two girls.

before the approach Sorin motivates you with various methods including his powerful and encouraging eye contact and his gestures… he makes you take action at the right time.

After finishing the evenings where we were approaching I received missions from Sorin to do at home. He also recommended me a wing – a partner to pick up with so that I can practise the skills I learnt and to evolve fast.

It was a very interesting experience, that helped me to get motivated, lift up a lot of barriers, defeat my fears and understand the fact that I shoudl treat women like normal people and not put her on some kind of a piedestal .

It is important to talk about your personality, to let her know who you are… to let your emotions come out… When you do, it will make it easier for girls and any other people to connect to you…

People that show positive emotions from within can become addictive, she will want to see you again and again…

When you show your fears from a wisdom point of view and let her know what you learnt about life in that moment, it can be really bonding because intrinsically we as people have a lot of commonalities…

We are differnt on the outside… we do different things, different locations… but on the inside we are very simillar…

Any person can understand and feel and empathise with CURIOSITY, ENTHUSIASM, RELAXATION, SURPRISE, INTRIGUE, CONNECTION, etc…

Or any person cand understand the even deeper level of VALUES… We can all understand FREEDOM, HAPPINESS, POWER, SUCCESS, BALANCE and we can freely talk about them for hours and hours… because it’s about who we are as people… and these things are very important to us and thus easy to talk about…

Sometimes it’s easy to talk… it’s as simple as letting our thoughts come out… our deeper thoughts… on the lines of what I’ve said above…

Women know we have fears and we have our own vulnerabilities… so do they…

A strong man always admits he has weak and strong points, we are all human beings. No one is invincible… People that run and never accept or say anything about their weak points will never change them nor will they accept other people’s weaknesses thus making it very difficult for other people to connect to them…

Think about it…

There’s a very powerful need in us to connect in this strong, powerful and deep way…

The moment we do, it all clicks together and we want to see that person again and again…

Today, we are going to talk about long term relationships and about the guys who are at that moment in their lives where they do want this kind of a relationship… Or they have wanted it in the past and they now tell theirselves they don’t want one anymore. Or they may just be lying to themselves… temporarily that is (just like adventurous women temporarily do it as well, the kind of women that get drunk in clubs and pickup random guys)

I know what it’s like …

You met a girl, you started a relationship with her… You made big hopes about that relationship, maybe you even thought of having a family with her… But now she left you.

How do you get over it?

The first step the majority does is to believe it is 100% their fault, the fault of having lost control and that they should never do that again!

There are voices in the Seduction Community that say that:

“When you fall in love, the women will run all over you, she will control you and you will lose all your pride and character”

Unfortunately or Fortunately, this statement is both true and false .

Indeed, it’s not good to fall in love with ANY WOMAN. It is not good to make her your universe or to raise her on an unworthy high piedestal. Most times, she doesn’t even want that from you. She just wants to be equal with you, nothing more, nothing less. And if she does want something else, I don’t think it’s the kind of woman you are looking for.

A woman may run all over you, that is true… but this will happen only if the women is manipulative and you as a man accept these manipulations, because you as well are not 100% direct and honest, so you are being manipulative as well.

A women may control you and you may control her.

But I don’t hink you would want a woman who is beneath you, a woman you can too easily control… It’s fun to have that kind of woman once, twice… but after a few years you will get bored of this… You will want to be surprised. At first for your experience, and for satisfying your ego, to forget the pain you felt in the past with the women that hurt you it may be ok to do this… but never forget what you truly want inside and what your objective is…

If a woman is controlling you, that is not ok. It means you are not being ASSERTIVE enough. You are not asking for your rights. This is another problem. EVERYTHING HAS TO BE NEGOCIATED! WHAT YOU WANT… WHAT SHE WANTS… WHAT IS EQUAL, CORRECT AND GOOD FOR BOTH .

And my dear reader… until you can start to offer an EQUAL and BEAUTIFUL relationship… until you can become ASSERTIVE and RELAXED in a relationship… you need experience… life experience… emotional experience… emotional control and a good knowledge of human psychology. That may be the reason why you are reading this now.

If you’re not there yet… if you’re not EMOTIONALLY MATURE yet, work on that now! Apply my advice into practise and develop your emotional intelligence, develop your capacity of CONSISTENT ACTION! You will need this in everything you do.

In other words…

It is OK to fall in love… when you have enough experience…

1. Because then you will have lots of alternatives… you can start a new relationship everytime you need one… or you can have one night stands… if that’s what your ego needs to get more detached.

2. You will know why you are choosing a woman… and you will know why you want or don’t want to stay with her… and especially you will know what you expect in return to what you are offering…

and last but not the least you will have DIGNITY to depart from all relationships that do not fulfill 100% of all your wishes…

So, do you still fall in love?

You see a girl you like. You’re thinking about going up and talking to her but suddenly your heart starts pounding… You are afraid…very afraid!

Oh damn, if only this fear would go away for good, I’d be so successfull. I’ll wait until I can make it go away and then approach. Yeah!

Breaking news:

Fear of approach will never go away completely.
And if it would then you will do a pathetic approach, with no emotion involved, no desire, no efficiency…
The idea is not to destroy the fear completely or to run away from it but to accept it and transform it into charisma.

FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY … as a title of a book goes on to say!

When you approach although you’re afraid and she smiles back… you get relaxed and she does as well, and everything goes on natural from then on…

I always feel fear of approaching and it’s still working .
Am I going to let fear stop me from having a good time? What kind of a man am I then?

Oh and another very important thing is… don’t approach women you don’t like. Approaching to get in shape, to warm up, approaching girls you don’t really like, approaches where you are fake, where you are lying to her that you like her… get the worst rejects because the girl knows you are not being honest… Only approach if you feel the girl deserves it! Very important!

Why can I approach after 1 month of no approaching… and I can make it happen?

Start being the man you were born to be. Make the first step, present yourself with a smile and be confident. And then let it flow from there …

PS There are no magical pills, just facing your fears until they become more and more comfortable

Romanian Women are very beautiful, classy and with a nice character.

How beautiful they are you can check by watching THIS video. These are regular girls here in Bucharest, Romania.

The vast majority of Romanian Women speak English since it is taught to us since we are 12.

Apart from this let me give my guide to picking up Romanian Women in high class bars, pubs and clubs…

I went these last few days with a client that came at the 1-on-1 Seduction Training here in Bucharest, Romania in order for him to learn How to seduce Romanian Women, live, in the field.

We stopped at several high class clubs such as Fratelli, Bamboo, Gaia and I was happy once again to see how easy it is to pickup hot women in a high class club compared to what the majority of men think.

Although you may think you cannot pickup such sexy women without very expensive cars, whether you want it or not, you will not be able to drive your car into the club, for her to see it.

I’ve said this and I’ll say it again:

Money, pyshical beauty and humour are optional in a man.
Mansculinity and the capacity to create a deep connection with women, are not!

You will say to yourself that only gold diggers hang down there anyway and that they are escorted by fat, bald providers. Indeed, a part of them are like that, but you are not looking for a gold digger anyway… so why label all women in there like that when you can find a lot fo hot women who have a normal personality, normal needs and dreams who indeed have more cash than the usual girl and are looking for a man for their tastes, why on earth would they otherwise hang out in groups and talk the same boring things to each other every saturday, wanting so hard for a confident man to come and meet them and to offer them powerful and beautiful emotions.

I suggest to you that you pickup women who are standing, and who are in groups. They are those women who stay in groups of 4-5 girls and dance, relax and listen to club music. With a confident, sexual attitude you can break the group and walk up to the girl you like and create attraction and admiration because unfortunately most men sit on the side, drink their cocktail or whiskey and are waiting for some divine miracle through which the women will aproach THEM!

If you there’s also a guy or two in the group pay attention to his body lagnuage… and if there is phyisical contact (kino, touch) with any of the women. This is how you will know whether any of the girls is his girlfriend or they are just buddies. And even if you will not notice that, you will be surprised to see what a confident and relaxed attitude can do and when the boyfriend of the girl you are approaching comes up with an assertive, relaxed and respectful attitude you can get out of any apparent difficult moment. It has happened to me many times for her boyfriend to come after I approached her or her boyfriend was already in the group the girl I approached was in and no hard feelings were taken on any side.

All men have the right to approach. If you ask women you will see that they always admire men who approach them in a confident, masculine way no matter whether they do accept their approach or not.

If the woman is available she will give soubtle signs that she wants you to continue conversation with her. The most subtle sign is that she is answering your questions and talking to you, maybe the most important sign too. It is not necessary to see 10 IOI’s (Indicators of Interes – Unconcious signals of attraction that the women is sending), before it is ok for you to talk to her and escalate physically…

Women from high class clubs give out less indicators of interest because they are more beautiful than the average, they are more made up and want the man to do everything.  That means that you will never ask them anything… May I…? Am I allowed to…? Do you have a phone number?

They will respond to your request by accepting the direction you areprojecting with definite confidence. Moreover, a leader LEADS, he does not always ask for permission. When you ask for something and ask you do nothing but pass on the leadership to the other… and this is very frustrating for women.

Pay attention to the fact that you will not be able to hear each other very well in such a club. The idea is not necessarily to have a lot of rapport, but to present a sexual and masculine attitude through persistence in the approach, through a decisive, relaxed (laid-back) body language and through kino(touching her) when you are talking to her… Such a first impression to a woman doubled by the halo effect (generalisation of first impression all people do) will help you enormously in picking up hot women from expensive high class clubs.

The Halo effect is the effect we all feel when we see a beautiful woman. If she is beautiful, we think she is also interesting, a good partner, and may have many other hidden qualities.

With women, if they see a very confident man, they will think he also has a nice character and strong personality, and can offer her a wonderful relationship and life experience.

Use the halo effect for your benefit. If you approach in a weak way, with insecurity, and your body shows lack of confidence, hesitation or you give up too easily, by telling yourself NO long before the woman does… you don’t do anything else but create a halo effect against you…

If you give up so easily already… what will happen next… when it’s the time to kiss, to have sex… or enter a relationship where you may need to be a strong man and act for the couple’s needs… at the time when life may become difficult… This halo effect has a very strong and profound effect in the subcouncious of every man and woman… She will not know why she takes the decision not to see you again but you will see the effect in her behaviour by her ignorring you slightly … than openly.

You know you are approaching well, in a confident, sexual manner… when even if the woman is 100% not interested in you (she already has a boyfriend who she wants to be faithful too, she is not looking for anyone now), she stiill has a REACTION to your approach… she still feels your pronounced sexuality and enjoys the fact she is being approached by such a man even if at that particular moment she cannot be reciprocal about it…

How about you? How do you pickup hot women in expensive high class clubs?

What kind of excuses do YOU find for why you can’t pickup the hottest women in there?